The other day @winsome_gypsy asked who was up for some nipple torture. And as we were talking about how I don´t like nipple play, I had a thought which I didn´t have for a long time.
Throughout the conversation a voice in my head was saying:”You are a bad sub for not for not liking it.”
I am glad that I learned enough about myself to know that it´s not true.
I know that liking or disliking something does not define whether I am a sub or not. If there is something that is not liked then it should be respected.
There is a reason why there are limits.
Some are soft limits. Things I am curious bout, but am too afraid or too inexperienced or too shy to try. But I would do or at least try them, if I have someone to hold my hand during it or “make” me do it.
And the there are hard limits. Things that I would never do, have done to me or which, in my head, are simply wrong.
Recently I had to add something to my limits and I was surprised about the reaction I got. Instead of the new limit being accepted or at least asked for a reason. Instead the person thought that I brat. (Which, we already know, I don´t do )
I´m not a a bad sub for disliking things and setting limit. I am a good sub BECAUSE of it. I am a good sub for knowing what I want and what I don´t want. And for not being afraid to say it.