No means Nein

No means Nein

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The first thing that come to my mind when I read the prompt was to write about safewords. But I wasn´t quite sure and hoped for some more inspiration. And there it was.

During a talk with Nima earlier today, he suggested that the next time we meet we should talk about D/s and how it affects the non-play time. Also, whether we want it to have any effect on it. During this conversation he also pointed out that we should talk about having a safeword.

No problem, I thought to myself. I already have a safeword. But the next moment I remembered that all is different with Nima. Mostly, because we speak German. All my Doms in the past were English-speaking. So now I am discovering D/s in a different language.
It is exciting, but kind of strange. For almost 10 years the language I associated with my desires was English. I learned the words and expressions. It felt right, just as any other language didn´t feel right.

Now I feel a bit like a newbie. Not having the right words to express my feeling, wants and desires. On the other hand I am excited about exploring it with him together. (Also, his English is pretty good, in case I really miss a word…)

So, for my near future: No means Nein

For obvious reasons that will not be my safeword. I´m thinking something more like: “supercalifragilisticexpialidocious”




  1. Wow. The language difference must make for some really fascinating play. I’m hoping you might write a little more about this in the future?

    Jane xxx

    PS – the only German I can remember with any sort of reliability is Schwarzwälder Kirschtorte. Too big a mouthful to get out at a critical moment, I suspect!

  2. Your last word had me smiling, both because I instantly thought of one of my favorite movies and secondly because I think it will be impossible to get the word out at a critical time.

    I can just imagine how exciting it must be for you to experience the thrill of being a newbie 🙂

    Rebel xox

  3. Well that’s certainly a mouthfull of safeword, haha. How fun to learn/experience newness from a different language! I remember I would dream for a while in my second language, which seemed odd, considering I didn’t use it often. But never my desire, how fascinating.

  4. I would love to read more in the future about how the language shift feels and affects you. I think that is a very interesting subject and I wonder if it might even throw up the odd funny story along the way.


  5. My sub is German and he is still learning all the nuances of English. We use RED! to call a time-out to discuss whatever is going on, be it an element of play or a simple conversation.

    ~Kazi xxx

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