The first thing that come to my mind when I read the prompt was to write about safewords. But I wasn´t quite sure and hoped for some more inspiration. And there it was.
During a talk with Nima earlier today, he suggested that the next time we meet we should talk about D/s and how it affects the non-play time. Also, whether we want it to have any effect on it. During this conversation he also pointed out that we should talk about having a safeword.
No problem, I thought to myself. I already have a safeword. But the next moment I remembered that all is different with Nima. Mostly, because we speak German. All my Doms in the past were English-speaking. So now I am discovering D/s in a different language.
It is exciting, but kind of strange. For almost 10 years the language I associated with my desires was English. I learned the words and expressions. It felt right, just as any other language didn´t feel right.
Now I feel a bit like a newbie. Not having the right words to express my feeling, wants and desires. On the other hand I am excited about exploring it with him together. (Also, his English is pretty good, in case I really miss a word…)
So, for my near future: No means Nein
For obvious reasons that will not be my safeword. I´m thinking something more like: “supercalifragilisticexpialidocious”
Sounds like your having a great time, kind of get that newbie rush all over again. I got a chuckle at the final possible safe word. Thank you for sharing
Thank you and yes, I am having a great time.
As for the suggested safeword, I´m not sure I will be able to pronounce it when it is needed.
Wow. The language difference must make for some really fascinating play. I’m hoping you might write a little more about this in the future?
Jane xxx
PS – the only German I can remember with any sort of reliability is Schwarzwälder Kirschtorte. Too big a mouthful to get out at a critical moment, I suspect!
Your last word had me smiling, both because I instantly thought of one of my favorite movies and secondly because I think it will be impossible to get the word out at a critical time.
I can just imagine how exciting it must be for you to experience the thrill of being a newbie 🙂
Rebel xox
Well that’s certainly a mouthfull of safeword, haha. How fun to learn/experience newness from a different language! I remember I would dream for a while in my second language, which seemed odd, considering I didn’t use it often. But never my desire, how fascinating.
I would love to read more in the future about how the language shift feels and affects you. I think that is a very interesting subject and I wonder if it might even throw up the odd funny story along the way.
Mollyxxx
Mmm how really fascinating about the language of your BMDS!! – and I don’t think you can beat Red as a safeword! – or should I say Rot hahaha – good luck 🙂
My sub is German and he is still learning all the nuances of English. We use RED! to call a time-out to discuss whatever is going on, be it an element of play or a simple conversation.
~Kazi xxx
Adventures in language to be sure. Red is our safeword 🙂