When I started my journey into BDSM and began to understand that the things I desire and dream about are perfectly normal, I found myself fantasising and reading about stories which had protocol in them.
The idea of the first thing doing after entering his home to be kneeling excited me.
I liked the idea to be on my knees, with my hands behind my back, my head lowered and my eyes looking to the floor.
I enjoyed the thought of having to stand in front of my Dom and being inspected, whether I did a good job shaving, for example.
As I lived out more of my fantasies and desires, I realised that I’m not that big of a fan of strict protocol.
I don’t use lowercased letter when talking about me and I don’t capitalise letters when talking about him. I do have to admit that I do wrote Dom and sub. That kind of stuck with me. Also, when writing in German, it works differently. But all in all I am more concerned about grammar than lower and upper case and what it could mean. Just an example.
I will never refer to a man as “Sir/Master…” every single time I talk to him.
It’s just not me.
I know I will never care whether I shaved every hair off. Simply because I don’t wear my glasses in the shower and that makes shaving hard enough.
I will also never care whether I looked at him when I shouldn’t have and wasn’t addressed. Because I like looking at my man. And I know that one look can often say more than a thousand words.
And I will never care if I am kneeling right. Because I have not the slightest idea how I hold or shouldn’t kneel.
Of course the thoughts still excite me and a couple of things I automatically do. Like having my hands behind my back.
And yes, I do enjoy a story every now and then which has much more protocol in it than I’d be interested in. And I am fascinated by couples that actual live according to a certain protocol and make it work.
But for me, I know, that it’s nothing I would be happy with. In the long run.
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