I am a sucker for intelligence. And I mean it in every way 😉
There are different kinds of intelligence.
I was very lucky to grow up in a house full of books. Books and intelligence always was linked for me. As well as knowledge.
Reading as well as writing always were a big part of my life and still are.
So naturally I have a special place for men who read and own books and such.
And also now, most of my friends are people like that. They read, they know what happens in the world…
And I love most of them. But I also discovered that just because you are, what people call, “intelligent”, doesn´t mean that you are smart or a good person.
A person might have a “doctor” in his name or studied all kinds of interesting and useful (and unuseful) things, but this doesn´t make him or her intelligent, in my eyes.
Lately I was asked a lot by boys my age what I studied in university. Most of them are just out of there or are trying to. And for them it is some kind is status symbol. And I can see it in their eyes and even in their online reaction, when I tell them that I actually never went to university.
(Note: Here in Germany it isn´t expensive to go to university. Most people go. Some stay there for ever.)
What I want to point out is what I said before. There are different kind of intelligence. I wouldn´t stop talking to someone only because he doesn´t have a PhD or because he is a “normal” worker somewhere. I try to see a man ( or a woman) as a whole person.
That said, I made it a habit to ask a man what the last book was he read. When he read it. Why…
I don´t need him to quote Shakespeare for me. But I need him to know who Shakespeare was.
And as far as online dating goes. We all make spelling mistakes. We all use those little helps when texting or tweeting, to make it all fit into one text. I can tolerate that. But I am having a hard time when people use text spelling in a longer text, email, message.
I have gone so far to decline people’s requests to follow me on Twitter when they had a spelling mistake in their bio.
And if a guy can´t write out “How R U?” in a message, he will not be getting an answer.
Now how does what I said before fit together with what I just said now?
Very easily. I don´t care whether you have a college degree or not, if I don´t understand what you are writing and have to reread every sentence then I most probably will have no interest in you.
As for myself. I am aware that I make mistakes. Spelling mistakes, little ones because I type too fast or don´t pay attention. But I should mention that I am not a native English speaker and I am ok with it, I try my best. Either in English, German or any other language I speak. I am grateful when people point out to me that I did something wrong. (When done in a nice way.)
I don´t understand people who don´t care for right spelling and such. It is a huge turn off for me. And I will probably be thinking about it, while in bed with that guy.
In my ideal world, I have discussions with my man about politics, news, books. I don´t need that to happen every time I see him. Or at all. But knowing that the possibility is there makes my panties very, very wet.
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