A submissive shouldn’t question a Dominant’s orders.

It’s not a submissive’s position to know what a dominant’s reasons are .

They should just do it and trust the dominant with that decision.

Three sentences, around 30 words. And with each word I find myself shaking my head more and more. This is what these prompts are supposed to do. Make us have a reaction, think and share what we think. Yet, some trigger something deep down in us. That is true for me with this one. I feel like I could write a post on each of the sentences, so I decided to go throught each seperatly.

A submissive shouldn’t question a dominant’s orders.

I’m sorry, what now?

Yes, there might be moments where I don’t question his orders. When we are in a moment and my head is in a different space. Sure, in that situation I probably won’t turn to him and say: “Listen, sorry to interrupt, but why are you telling me to do that?” And then there are moments and situations when I don’t feel the need to question his orders, because they are clear to me. But in general, I need to know that I can always question what he says and am allowed to ask anytime.

It’s not a submissive’s position to know what a dominant’s reasons are.


I know, for some people, d/s is a very serious thing. And yes, I take it somewhat serious. It is part of our relationship. A huge part. But this sentence makes me rather think of a religion than a bond between two people.

How can it NOT be my position to to know his reasons. I might choose to trust him that there’s a deeper reason behind his order, but it is my right to know. And speak up when I think he’s being unreasonable.

And every now and then, his answer to why might be “because I want to”. That is especially true for spankings.

They should just do it and trust the dominant with that decision.

Are you kidding me?

This will not happen. If he’s not clear with his instructions, I will ask. If there are several ways to do something, I will ask. If something seem risky or maybe stupid, I will ask him whether he’s aware of that or whether he’s being an idiot on purpose.

Yes, every relationship needs trust. Vanilla or d/s. Trust should be the foundation. But trust doesn’t mean to close my eyes and simply follow. Maybe for some that might work, but I know myself well enough. I’ll do that for a while, until I grow tired of it and don’t want to suppress my head anymore. It’s not me.

On occasion, I will do exactly as the quote says. I will do as I’m told, without questions, back talk, eye rolling (yes, I can hear him laughing as he reads that). I will accept his dominance over me and submit completely. I will simply do.

And then I will go back to being myself.

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