A lively discussion is usually helpful, because the hottest fire makes the hardest steel.Tom Clancy
I have said it before and I will say it again. Talking is the most important thing in a relationship. You can have an amazing sex life or endless love, but if there’s no talking and communicating, I doubt that it’ll last.
Now, in that regard a LDR is perfect. What else can you do if not talk? There’s only that much phone and video sex one can have. Btw, I’m definitely don’t have enough of either.
Talking helps to stay connected.
From the quote, I understand that it’s not that kind of talking. The quote speaks about discussions. Having different opinions, standing one’s ground, arguing, negoting.
Only recently, as I was reading one of Michael’s contributions to NoTrueWay, I told him that I wondered whether there is something we don’t agree on. When it comes to Kink and the idea that float around.
Of course there are things one of us likes that the other doesn’t. And we talk about them. But it’s nothing that sparks a lively discussion.
Same is true with non-kink-realted topics. There are many topics where we don’t see eye to eye. We have different idea and takes on various aspects of life, politics, lifestyle choices. But also here, I can’t remember too many times when the discussion got really heated.
Of course I can only speak for myself, but I know that often there is not one right way or opinion. So I respect him having a very different opinion and I feel that he does the same.
And when it comes to things where there really in only one right way, like rascism, homophobia, transphobia etc., we have the same thoughts. (Otherwise it would be a deal breaker for both of us.)
I know that one day a topic will come up that will challenge us more. And to be honest, I look forward to that.
I find discussions like that just as important as the “normal” talking and exchange, that I was talking about before. I believe it’s a way to learn more about your person. And sometimes a lively discussions shows more than is wanted. Not only the words, but the body language, the choice of words, and what is communicated in the heat of the moment.
I look forward to learn more about him, us, myself.