My Local Community

My Local Community

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I didn’t want to write about this topic. I didn’t think I had anything to share.
But then I had an idea.

Have you done it in the past? What was your experience? Are you nervous or shy? Explore your feelings and consider whether the local community is a viable option for you.

I have not really tried to find people in my area, who are into the lifestyle. Sometimes I think how nice it would be to have someone who understands d/s in the same city as I’m in. It would be nice to meet up every now and then and exchange thoughts and ideas.
But often I’m also scared of it. Mostly because I’m not sure how I would feel about meeting them at a random event. How should I explain it to whoever I’m with at the time?
I guess it would be easier if I was more open about d/s in my every day life.

I have tried to meet people. And apparently there are munches and stuff happening. I have met with people one-on-one. But I was never so interested in them to stay in touch with them. I assume it just weren’t the right people.

I also never had the chance to meet more than a couple (as in two people), who also were living or practicing or interested in d/s. And all of them didn’t live in the area, if they even lived in Germany.

I have always looked at Twitter as my local community. Obviously, it’s people from all over the world, but they are like-minded people and people I get along with. I feel comfortable sharing what I share with them. At the same time, I enjoy learning from them greatly.

Being a shy person, Twitter makes it easy to get to know people. I follow them for a while and then I comment or start a conversation. I have met so many wonderful people on Twitter and had the luck to meet a few of them in real life. Maybe one day I’ll get to meet more of them. That would be wonderful.

As for a local community, I’m not sure whether I’d be comfortable enough with actually meeting real people from my city or the neighbouring towns. I’m conflicted and scared and curious.
Who knows what the future will bring…

So, maybe here’s an idea: If you’re in Germany, reach out and maybe you’re closer to me than we thought.

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  1. It seems to me that you should not look for like-minded people based on the proximity of the location. The Internet, including Twitter, makes it possible to go from the opposite, that is, from a community of interests. And this is the more correct way.

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