If you’re a parent, today is a day to think about how you make your D/s work while raising kids. And if you’re not a parent yet, imagine how you might handle things if you have children.
I am very cautious with my kids and mentioning them in here or Twitter. Or any other kink-related site or event. They aren’t part of that world and aren’t aware of it.
For the first years that I have been exploring d/s and all that comes with it, the kids were too small to even understand. It didn’t make a huge difference to them with whom I was on the phone or whether I was wearing a necklace or a collar. It was easy.
Then I needed a break. And after I came back, I suddenly had to learn that things are different now. They hear things, they ask questions, they are more aware of their and my surroundings.
Now I should mention, again, that I have never lived with a dom. So them walking in on us is something that most likely won’t happen anytime soon. But because of that, I can’t say how I’d make the d/s dynamic and having children work.
That actually is something that makes me wonder how 24/7 could ever work. I want my kids to grow up to have a normal understanding of life and role models and all. I don’t want my daughter to think women have to submit to men and serve them
Neither do I want my son to be convinced that he has a higher, better, whatever standing because he’s male.
Knowing myself and my kids I highly doubt that would’ve ever been the case. But it’s thoughts like that which make me a bit nervous.
In the end it’s simple. My kids are not that far from being adults and there’s no way I will have another child. Kids and d/s is nothing I need to think about too much. And I have to admit, I’m quite happy about it.
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