
I have been talking to a friend. We were catching up and I learnt some interesting things about him and his life. We were talking about love life and such affairs and he told me about a relationship he had. During this conversation I made a joke about his choices. To which he relied how he’s ashamed.
Right away I made clear that I didn’t mean it that way. It was clear though that he is very much ashamed. About what he did, how he handled a situation, but also he was ashamed about the relationship he was in and especially about the person.
This got me thinking. We all have something we regret. I know I have. There are plenty things I regret. Some things are small, others are bigger.
I regret agreeing to be with certain doms, who weren’t good for me – or anyone else.
I regret not fighting for relationships.
I regret doing things I didn’t want to.
I regret not speaking up.
I regret sleeping with men I shouldn’t have.
I regret not taking chances.
I regret things I said or didn’t say.
I regret not taking a stand when I should’ve.
I regret opening up to people I shouldn’t have.
I regret not walking away when I had the chance.
I regret so many things.
With all those regrets, I also know that I wouldn’t be the person I am today. I wouldn’t be in the place I am now. I would not have achieved the things I have achieved.
Yes, I have stood in my way sometimes, but I like to think I learnt from it. There is no reason to dwell in bygones and obsess about things I can’t change. All that happened, happened. I simply can hope to learn a lesson from it, work through it, and not repeat the same mistakes.
Ahhh regrets…. yep, I know all about them
Molly
I know what you mean at 65 sometimes I wish I could go back 20 or30 years but then I think of the way our world is today and say no I dont and feel sorry for the younger people I work with. I will say they help me feel younger than I am
I have very few regrets
I know what you mean at 65 sometimes I wish I could go back 20 or30 years but then I think of the way our world is today and say no I dont and feel sorry for the younger people I work with. I will say they help me feel younger than I am
I have very few regrets
You have drawn the right conclusions. We all have something to regret. But there is no point in killing yourself over something that cannot be returned and corrected. Move on. Life goes on.