Hygiene and grooming are important – your Dom wants you clean and pretty
Obviously, personal hygiene isn’t a bad idea. Brushing one’s teeth, taking a shower, washing hands (extra important, as we learnt in the past 2 years). All those are basic things.
Looking back on my past d/s relationships, it mostly was reasonable. There rarely was a case of a dominant, who wanted me to put more effort into these things than I usually do. I have had the occasional “I expected you to be clean shaven. I will check and use tweezers to pluck hairs you missed.” As I had written before, those were empty threats.
I understand that my partner wants me clean. All within reason, of course. It is a part of selfcare. I think we can all agree on that.
But why it is that I never see quotes like that for doms? Do we assume they are better at basic hygiene stuff than subs? Don’t subs want doms, who take care of themselves, shower frequently, and brush their teeth? It might just be me, but I think, we do want that.
Now the word “grooming” has a very bad sound to me that is a language thing, I assume. Grooming is always connected to adult men grooming young girls for sex stuff. I am aware it’s not the context this word is meant here, still. It feels weird.
As for the second part of the quote. My doms wants me “clean and pretty”? If you have read Michael’s post, he seems to want me dirty. Yes, I realise it’s two different things and one can be both at the same time.
And pretty? What does that even mean? Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. I might be pretty with make-up on and smiling or with mascara running down my face and sobbing.i don’t want the burden of always looking nice and perfect. I couldn’t do it. And I wouldn’t.
I will admit though. I want a pretty dom. Someone I like to look at. And luckily I have that. I so enjoy watching him. Especially when he cooks.
He is so pretty.